What It Means Surviving Abuse and Choosing to Break the Cycle
They say pain changes you and that’s true. But what they don’t tell you is: it doesn’t have to turn you into what hurt you. That’s the choice I made. This is the truth about surviving abuse and choosing to break the cycle, even when it damn near breaks you in the process.
Because survival isn’t the end.
It’s the beginning of a war to do better, live better, be better, in spite of every scar they left behind.
Surviving abuse and choosing to break the cycle means waking up every day and deciding not to repeat the past.
It means raising kids without violence when violence was all you knew.
It means teaching them to use their voices when yours was stolen.
It means holding space for their emotions when no one gave a damn about yours.
Parenting Through Pain
It means becoming the kind of parent you needed, not the kind you had.
But don’t get it twisted, breaking the cycle ain’t pretty.
It’s crying in silence so they don’t see.
It’s shaking through panic attacks while making breakfast.
It’s apologizing for yelling, even though nobody ever apologized to you.
It’s choosing healing without a blueprint because you had to build the damn map from scratch.
And still, we do it.
We keep showing up.
We keep breaking every toxic pattern they passed down like family heirlooms.
We keep healing wounds we never asked for.
How Healing Becomes a Legacy
Surviving abuse and choosing to break the cycle also means turning inward.
Facing the parts of yourself you don’t like.
The defensive voice, the shutdown moments, the pain you carry in your body like a ticking bomb.
It means choosing not to pass that pain forward.
It means doing the deep work. Even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it hurts, even when it exposes your own shadow.
But here’s the power in it all:
You become the end of a curse.
You become the first one to say, “Not anymore.”
You become the light that your bloodline has never seen before.
The Power of Choosing to Break the Cycle
And yeah, maybe it shouldn’t have been your job to heal it.
But you’re doing it anyway.
And that makes you powerful beyond measure.
So if you’re surviving abuse and choosing to break the cycle, I see you.
You’re not weak for having triggers.
You’re not failing for getting tired.
You’re not broken for needing space to grieve the childhood you deserved.
You are the cycle breaker.
The warrior.
The blueprint for a new legacy.
And your healing? That’s the revolution.
